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Love is made by two people

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Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. Guys watching sports while talking to his mate is not quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future. Quality time is a love language that is shared by many.

Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy relationship. Listening leads to understanding.

Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude. It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd. We are all bound by strong emotion, clinging to history, the past and shared culture. Sometimes, a third party will not be able to truly understand what has happened in the relationship. This is also the reason why they can never understand how can a love so strong, can go wrong.

 

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  1. this is so very true – listening leads to understanding. most of the time, people just want to talk and refuse to sit down and reflect. maybe that’s why there are so many unhappiness out there. beautiful piece babe! and gary chapman is good! i wonder what is my love language o:)

    ailing

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 3:17 pm

  2. lovely piece! i love esp this part written by you ~ Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude. It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd. We are all bound by strong emotion, clinging to history, the past and shared culture. Sometimes, a third party will not be able to truly understand what has happened in the relationship. This is also the reason why they can never understand how can a love so strong, can go wrong.

    that is so true. i seem to be the bad person all the time.

    is this your love language? i think mine is receiving gifts. HAHA i hope that i won’t be seen as materialistic ;p

    gena

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 3:22 pm

  3. hey cherie! where will you be heading for xmas? u sound so emo man! r u alright? take care dude!

    samyboy

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 3:25 pm

  4. ailing: You can check out the five love languages on his website :)

    cherielee

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 4:21 pm

  5. gena: Thank you gena! Glad that you love it :)

    As long as you know what you did was right, do not bother what others have to say about you. Only you are responsible and accountable for your own actions. Quality time is my love language :) I love spending quality time with my love ones. and no dear, you won’t be seen as materialistic! you are just more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion.

    cherielee

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 4:26 pm

  6. samyboy: hey sam! not sure where i’m heading for xmas. I will only know where when I have a date :)

    cherielee

    Friday, December 18, 2009 at 4:33 pm

  7. Nice post!

    The couple got to communicate and listen to each other.
    When one starts to get bored/fed up of listening, problems occurs.

    Personally, i feel communications and giving to each other short-coming is an important element to keep the feeling going.

    Don’t be too emo, enjoy the Christmas! =)

    Hong Wei

    Saturday, December 19, 2009 at 12:07 am

  8. Yes I do agree. Communication and listening is very important. A very Merry Christmas to you too Hong Wei :)

    cherielee

    Monday, December 21, 2009 at 10:19 pm


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